So I met with my attorney's assistant today. I haven't seen her since the very beginning of the divorce, when I was an emotional wreck. She saw me and said, "You look good! You look so happy....you just have this GLOW!" I know I feel so much relief to not have my ex or his parents on my back...but I didn't realize that it was so obvious to everyone else. The thing is, too, that she is the 3rd person to tell me this. The first person kept looking at me and saying, "There is just something different about you....you are SO happy!" The second person said the same thing, "You just have this GLOW."
I found out that he has been dating since the middle of September....which was a slap in the face for me. After thinking about it, though, I can handle it ok. That means that he was lonely and trying to fill a void....but was too immature to stand behind his vows and try to work things out with his wife. I saw him at a redlight last night at 5:45 and thought, "Oh! I wonder if he's going to meet his girlfriend or--wait--I don't care." And that was a good feeling. I really don't care. I thought about if it were he and I going to dinner....and that thought bored the snot out of me.
I can have REAL conversation now! I have opportunities open to me! I don't have to worry about my children being mentally challenged because of his genetics. I don't have to live beside his coddling nosey backwoods parents. Ahhhhhhh!
I'm loving this living by myself thing, too! My bed for my spare bedroom will be delivered next Saturday. I'm going to get my living room decorated at some point, maybe. I have curtains hung and a little wall decor. Yes, I found my stud! ;-) I have changed out 75% of the lightbulbs in this place, replaced my toilet seat, and changed out the plug on my dryer MYSELF. PLUS, I am taking out my own garbage! (That is my LEAST favorite thing to do!) By golly, who needs a man? This is awesome! Plus, when I go to clean the toilet, it is always spotless now.
So that just might be the reason for the glow....that or else I've stayed in the tanning bed too long. :-S
D-I-V-O-R-C-E
Ok, so the days are ticking down. Pretty much, I'm waiting on my lawyer to get her butt in gear and get a counter-counter offer to Cody. If he wants to keep everything, he's gonna pay me my half of it, by golly. I think once we get that settled on, we'll be divorced since our 60 days have run. I've asked Cody twice to at least TRY to work on things. He won't entertain the idea.
So here's my 2 cents on divorce: IT SUCKS! It's painful. Don't do it if you can avoid it! Today's church is WAAAAAAY too accepting of it. Cody sits his butt in church but absolutely ignores God's word on divorce....but no one will direct him on it because they're "afraid he'll stop coming." One of the articles I read said that research shows that the divorce rate in Atheists & Agnostics is 3% lower than that of Christians. Hmmmm....I can see that.
What's done is done, though. I'll try to never make the same mistakes again. I have grown very much from this experience...and continue to. Unfortunately, I have lost alot of faith in some things and people. Fortunately, though, my faith in God has grown more than I ever could have expected. I think he has just taken the biggest stumbling block out of my life.
SO! I'll continue twiddling my thumbs, waiting for a divorce settlement so that I can get rid of this last name to put on my diploma.
So here's my 2 cents on divorce: IT SUCKS! It's painful. Don't do it if you can avoid it! Today's church is WAAAAAAY too accepting of it. Cody sits his butt in church but absolutely ignores God's word on divorce....but no one will direct him on it because they're "afraid he'll stop coming." One of the articles I read said that research shows that the divorce rate in Atheists & Agnostics is 3% lower than that of Christians. Hmmmm....I can see that.
What's done is done, though. I'll try to never make the same mistakes again. I have grown very much from this experience...and continue to. Unfortunately, I have lost alot of faith in some things and people. Fortunately, though, my faith in God has grown more than I ever could have expected. I think he has just taken the biggest stumbling block out of my life.
SO! I'll continue twiddling my thumbs, waiting for a divorce settlement so that I can get rid of this last name to put on my diploma.
I'm Moving On. . .
I guess it's time for an update!
It has been 5 weeks since Cody and I split. I woke up one night this week and was like, "Where am I?!" Then I remembered everything. That was kind of weird, but it has only happened once since the first few nights in the new apartment.
I have had some very sad days and I have had some very happy days. As everyone kept telling me, the sad days will get fewer and fewer....and they have! Almost two weeks ago, I had a VERY catharsic day...and haven't been that low since! When I am happy now, I am REALLY happy! My entire world is wide open! When I am sad, it's just because I miss my usual comfort zone.
Life has taken on a different meaning since all of this. I spent 5 years doing the responsible thing and what was expected. You know what? Not anymore!!! I will do what I feel like and what makes me happy! I have had fabulous old friends and new ones come out of this to support me. I will never again take that for granted! I've seen what family really means. Some have been unconcerned and not been there...but I expected that from them. No great loss. What IS a loss is for me to take the valuable family for granted.
When all of this happened, I felt like I should never trust anyone and not let anyone matter to me anymore. Now, I see that the opposite is true. I invested so much into one person that I shut everyone else out....and THEY were the true jewels! I have realized alot in the past 5 weeks...and CONTINUE to learn more! What an experience! What a time of personal growth!
Anyway, Mel and I are headed to Nashville for a concert tonight. I am SuPeR pumped! WOO HOO! Girls' night!!! It feels awesome!
It has been 5 weeks since Cody and I split. I woke up one night this week and was like, "Where am I?!" Then I remembered everything. That was kind of weird, but it has only happened once since the first few nights in the new apartment.
I have had some very sad days and I have had some very happy days. As everyone kept telling me, the sad days will get fewer and fewer....and they have! Almost two weeks ago, I had a VERY catharsic day...and haven't been that low since! When I am happy now, I am REALLY happy! My entire world is wide open! When I am sad, it's just because I miss my usual comfort zone.
Life has taken on a different meaning since all of this. I spent 5 years doing the responsible thing and what was expected. You know what? Not anymore!!! I will do what I feel like and what makes me happy! I have had fabulous old friends and new ones come out of this to support me. I will never again take that for granted! I've seen what family really means. Some have been unconcerned and not been there...but I expected that from them. No great loss. What IS a loss is for me to take the valuable family for granted.
When all of this happened, I felt like I should never trust anyone and not let anyone matter to me anymore. Now, I see that the opposite is true. I invested so much into one person that I shut everyone else out....and THEY were the true jewels! I have realized alot in the past 5 weeks...and CONTINUE to learn more! What an experience! What a time of personal growth!
Anyway, Mel and I are headed to Nashville for a concert tonight. I am SuPeR pumped! WOO HOO! Girls' night!!! It feels awesome!
I Am Not A Duck
So I was leaving for work yesterday morning and heard a conversation between the male and female DJ's on the radio. Apparently, he had been slammed in some article and she was reassuring him. She said, "Do NOT let that bother you! If I said, 'You're a duck,' you would just be like, 'What's she talking about? Of course I'm not a duck, I don't have feathers!' It's so crazy that you know it isn't true, but since I said it about YOU, you question it. When people say things about you, you should know they aren't true, but you still worry about them. There's no reason to. Now, when you hear people say things about you, imagine me calling you a duck."
Yesterday played out to me being accused of lying and twisting the story. I twisted NOTHING. So, obviously, Cody is telling different versions. I knew going into this, that it would be ugly. I just didn't realize that the man that I loved so deeply would do so much to trash me. I know it makes him look completely innocent for him to leave big parts of our marriage out, but we are BOTH to blame for things.
Anyway, I just thought I would share the DJs' conversation. I do not care what the people who are dumb enough to only get one side of the story and think that they have enough information to judge say. I am NOT a duck! Remember that, people! (Or, as Van Wilder would say, "Write that down.)
Yesterday played out to me being accused of lying and twisting the story. I twisted NOTHING. So, obviously, Cody is telling different versions. I knew going into this, that it would be ugly. I just didn't realize that the man that I loved so deeply would do so much to trash me. I know it makes him look completely innocent for him to leave big parts of our marriage out, but we are BOTH to blame for things.
Anyway, I just thought I would share the DJs' conversation. I do not care what the people who are dumb enough to only get one side of the story and think that they have enough information to judge say. I am NOT a duck! Remember that, people! (Or, as Van Wilder would say, "Write that down.)
Daily Bible Verse
About a year ago, I subscribed to this Daily Bible Verse via email. It is absolutely AMAZING how God sends me scripture pertinent to my life at that time. There have been NUMEROUS times this has happened. Here is today's scripture:
Daily Bible Verse
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7 (New King James Version)
Tomorrow is a big day..I will see Cody for the first time in 2 weeks. I am scared to death of how he's going to act. (Mainly, I'm afraid he's going to try to run away from facing up to our situation.) I have been VERY anxious.
I put my husband before God in my marriage and that was a mistake. Now look who has turned his back on me and then look Who hasn't.
Daily Bible Verse
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7 (New King James Version)
Tomorrow is a big day..I will see Cody for the first time in 2 weeks. I am scared to death of how he's going to act. (Mainly, I'm afraid he's going to try to run away from facing up to our situation.) I have been VERY anxious.
I put my husband before God in my marriage and that was a mistake. Now look who has turned his back on me and then look Who hasn't.
5 Years...That's A Wrap!
Just for those wondering, Cody and I lasted just past 5 years. They were enjoyable. We can't get along, though, so we're divorcing. We are 2 completely different people and have kept each other from doing things that were important to us. If you have any questions about what's going on, just ask. I'd much rather tell you than to have the gossip mill add juicy details.
I appreciate all the friends that have shown me support. If I would have known that I would feel this good and loved, I would have done it sooner. Yes, it hurts me DEEPLY to lose my best friend of 7 years, but it appears that I am the only one that feels that way.
Anyway, I feel like my life has begun all over again. I loved alot, but I learned even more.
Love you guys!!!
P.S. Call me soon to hang out!!!!
I appreciate all the friends that have shown me support. If I would have known that I would feel this good and loved, I would have done it sooner. Yes, it hurts me DEEPLY to lose my best friend of 7 years, but it appears that I am the only one that feels that way.
Anyway, I feel like my life has begun all over again. I loved alot, but I learned even more.
Love you guys!!!
P.S. Call me soon to hang out!!!!
Dairy
We visited Monte Vista Dairy in Greeley, CO. Currently, they are milking 3,200 head. We toured their facilities, and I thought I'd post some pics and explain the process.
For those that don't know, there are two different classes of cattle. You have beef cattle and dairy cattle. Beef breeds are raised for-you guessed it-BEEF. Those breeds muscle up more and finish out to produce ideal steaks and other beef cuts. The milk produced by those cows is only enough to raise a momma cow's calf. (We raise beef cattle, by the way.) Common beef breeds are Angus, Hereford, Limousin, Simmental, Brangus, and many, many others.
Dairy cows, on the other hand, are raised to produce milk. The females of the dairy breeds have extremely large udders and produce massive amounts of milk. Dairy breeds include Holstein, Jerseys, Guernseys, Brown Swiss, and a few others. (FYI: Those are Holsteins in the pictures.) In the old days, everyone ha
d a cow which they milked every day for their family's milk needs. Today, however, farmers have herds of dairy cows which they milk in their "parlors" twice a day, every day. In Henry County, our dairy farms range in size from 30 head to 500 head. The parlors also range in sophistication. I've only visited the parlors that are like the one at Monte Vista, so that's what I'll explain. Keep in mind, though, that there are other set-ups. Also keep in mind that they do this on a MUCH larger scale than many dairies.
d a cow which they milked every day for their family's milk needs. Today, however, farmers have herds of dairy cows which they milk in their "parlors" twice a day, every day. In Henry County, our dairy farms range in size from 30 head to 500 head. The parlors also range in sophistication. I've only visited the parlors that are like the one at Monte Vista, so that's what I'll explain. Keep in mind, though, that there are other set-ups. Also keep in mind that they do this on a MUCH larger scale than many dairies. 
First, the girls file into the stalls. They walk down the lane then turn 90 degrees to stick their heads through the gates. As you can see in the picture, this puts their rears and udders at eye level with the farmer standing in the working area. Dairy cows are extremely gentle and docile animals.
The farmer then comes through and sprays all the udders with a cleaning solution. He then goes down and wipes off every teat on every cow. The important thing here is that he uses a clean rag for each cow. That way, no infections or bacteria will be transferred from cow to cow. Once every teat is cleaned, the farmer turns the suction on the milkers and puts a milker on each cow. If you look closely at these pictures, you can see that one milker has 4 metal tubes. Each metal tube suctions onto a teat to milk the cow. The milker carries the milk through pipes to the milk storage tanks. The milk is stored there until the milk truck comes to pick it up and take it to a local processing plant.
The frequency of the milk truck depends, of course, on the number of cows milked (which is directly correlated to the volume of milk collected).
Oh yeah...that's just the morning shift. It all has to be done again in the evening! Twice a day, EVERY day.
Another little tidbit that I find interesting is that in some set-ups, the cows decide when they want to be milked. They make their way up to the pen to be moved into the parlor. Isn't that cool? I guess the mom's that have nursed their children can relate....engorged mams aren't fun.
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